Romance scams have surged during the pandemic, cheating online daters out of millions of dollars in the quest for love.
In 2021, consumers lost a record $547 million to romance scams, according to a report from the Federal Trade Commission. That represents an 80% increase compared to 2020 and brought the median personal loss to $2,400.
“The data doesn’t tell us exactly why it’s happening, but I think it’s reasonable to assume that the pandemic may have helped to fuel the continued growth by attracting more people to online dating apps and social media where they’ve ending up being connected with these scammers,” said Emma Fletcher, a senior data research at the FTC.
Since 2017, people have reported $1.3 billion in losses — more than any other kind of fraud that the FTC tracks. Fletcher said.
“It truly is a huge concern,” she said, adding that most people don’t report these kinds of losses.
Common scams
There are a few scams that are most prevalent in online dating.
Many fraudsters will ask you for money relatively soon after matching online, including funds to buy a plane ticket to come see you. Some of these tricks are similar to what viewers saw in Netflix’s online-dating scam documentary, “The Tinder Swindler.”
Last year, investing scams also increased, according to Fletcher. Those refer to instances when someone online gives specific investment advice and usually a link to where you should send your money.
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These scammers often pretend to be savvy investors giving advice to their “romantic” targets, said Fletcher. “[Victims] don’t think they’re sending money to a scammer.”
Many scams also utilize cryptocurrency, a payment method that’s difficult to track. In 2021, people lost $139 million in cryptocurrency to romance scams, with a median individual loss of nearly $10,000, according to the FTC.
Red flags
There are a few things that online daters can do to protect themselves and avoid becoming a victim, according to Nev Schulman, host and executive producer of MTV’s “Catfish: The TV Show.”
First, make sure the profile you see isn’t too good to be true. Asking yourself if the profile matches the type of person you’ve typically gone out with in the past is a good place to start, said Schulman, who has partnered with Zelle to educate consumers on scams.
“You also want to watch out for people whose lives seem mysterious,” said Schulman. “As alluring and exciting as that might be, if you’re going to talk to someone and potentially date them, you want to know what they do and where they are.”
That includes being cautious if someone travels all the time and can’t give you details of what they’re doing or why they aren’t available to meet.
“That’s a strange thing” not being free when they are “apparently trying to find someone to go on a date with,” he said.
“You have to ask yourself, ‘What is it about this person that they don’t want you to see their face or hear their voice?'” said Eva Velasquez, CEO of the nonprofit Identity Theft Resource Center. Another key red flag: someone who seems constantly available in a way that doesn’t add up with what they’ve told you about their life or career.
“Unlike in ‘The Tinder Swindler,’ the vast majority of romance scams take place with no in-person interaction whatsoever,” Fletcher added.
If you think you’ve been in touch with a scammer
If something on someone’s profile doesn’t seem to add up, or someone is asking you for money and you’re not sure what to do, there are a few steps you can take that may help.
First, you can do some due diligence by reverse image searching the pictures on their profile, said Velasquez. That way you may be able to see that the person is using someone else’s photos or identity.
You may also want to tell a trusted friend or family member about the situation, said Fletcher. Someone who doesn’t feel emotionally involved will likely be better able to help you spot a scammer.
“If they talk to people they know and those people are concerned, they should really pay attention,” said Fletcher.
If you’re not sure someone is legitimate, you also should not send them money or gift cards and most important, be careful not to share any key personal information like login credentials or passwords, said Velasquez.
You should also report the suspicious profile to the platform or dating app where you’ve been in touch, she said. If you’re worried that your identity may have been stolen, you can also seek assistance from the Identity Theft Resource Center.
Unfortunately, if you’ve sent someone money, it’s highly unlikely you’ll be able to get it back. You may be able to quickly freeze a bank account if you did a transfer, or recoup charges on a credit card. But if you sent someone money directly or invested in something that turned out to be fake, it might not be gone.
“There are limits to what can be done,” said Fletcher. “It’s definitely a challenge to help any individual consumer.”
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